Raising an Only Child

Raising an Only Child: Why We’re Proud to Be a One-and-Done Family

When I became a parent, I thought I knew how our family story would unfold. Like many people, I assumed siblings were simply part of the plan. After all, “When’s the next one coming?” was a question I started hearing almost immediately after our first child arrived.

But over time, I realized our path didn’t have to look like everyone else’s. We found a rhythm, a joy, and a completeness in being a family of three. We’ve embraced being a one-and-done family and raising an only child has been one of the most fulfilling choices of my life so far! 

Why We Chose “One and Done”

The decision wasn’t one single moment—it was a mix of life circumstances, self-reflection, and honest conversations. Parenting is an incredible journey, but it’s also demanding in ways you can’t fully understand until you’re living it. For us, adding another child didn’t feel right, emotionally or practically. Newborn stage was tough, post-partum was tough and toddler-hood has been tough all a little outside what is "typical" with some medical complexity, and it just wasn't in the cards for us to feel pulled to do it all again. 

We wanted to be intentional with our energy, our resources, and our time. By having one child, we’re able to give her the very best version of ourselves.

And truthfully? Our family just feels complete.

Our Beauty in Raising an Only Child

One of the unexpected joys of having one child is the depth of our connection. We’re able to focus on her unique personality, quirks, and interests in a really present way. I love watching her curiosity unfold, having long conversations together, and seeing how confident and independent she's becoming.

Life also feels a little more flexible. Spontaneous weekend trips, easy airplane travel, or even just quiet evenings at home are more doable when we’re not juggling the needs of a newborn again. I don’t take that ease for granted and also love and respect all of my friends who are in that stage of life. 

Debunking the Myths

People sometimes assume only children are lonely, spoiled, or missing out on something essential. But I see the opposite each day. Our daughter has strong friendships, cousins she adores, and a village of adults who love her deeply. She is slowly learning how to become independent, imaginative, and how to entertain herself without always needing someone else.

Siblings can be a gift but so can being an only child and no matter the size of a family, I will always treasure the relationships we have. 

Finding Peace in the Decision

I’ll admit, it took time to quiet the outside voices—the ones that say you should have another, or that your child will “miss out.” But peace came when I realized our family is not incomplete; it’s exactly as it’s meant to be.

Being one-and-done isn’t about limitation. It’s about honoring what works for us and embracing the fullness of the family we’ve built. Our home may be small in number, but it’s overflowing with laughter, love, and connection.

And really—that’s all that matters.